Unless you personally know my woman and I have allowed you into the deep recesses of my heart we are not friends

If you have not met my inner child we are not friends.

If I don’t pick up the phone and call you, we are not friends.

If interactions are me holding you we are not friends.

If you feel intimately connected to me but I don’t know you, we are not friends.

Being friends is a deeply human thing.

It’s personal.

It’s nuanced and complex.

Your relationship with me here in this space is as a teacher and a channel or just a random person you follow online.

In this relationship I am a representative for the energy.

It is not personal.

It is transpersonal, beyond the individual.

And it is my job in service to the energy to share and guide.

And I do share my humanity.

As a method of teaching.

It’s service.

Why write this?

Because anything here that you take “personally” is yours.

There is a desire to recruit others into our triggers and hurts and create relationships where they don’t exist because that’s how patterns play out.

In our personal lives we expect people to play a role.

While you may project a role in your mind onto me, I will not be participating in this illusion.

I do not answer to your ideas and expectations of “accountability” and your personal needs for me to “behave” according to your Egoic safety based belief structures.

But this is not a personal space and you do not have a “personal” relationship with me.

Why does this matter?

Someone said to me in anonymous Q&A:

“What’s the best way to show you something is hurtful that you are doing without you being defensive?”

(Following a question asking if I have ever been diagnosed with a personality disorder 🤣)

This is a question that points to a few things.

And I’m going to illustrate it so you can see this for your own spaces as well.

First, it assumes a relationship based on prior agreed upon values. It assumes I have violated an agreement we have. It assumes that we have shared vulnerability and intimacy and I have violated something.

It assumes… FRIENDSHIP.

What is actually happening is this person, a stranger on the internet, who feels intimately connected here on some level, feels that I am not living up to their expectations of how they need me to behave in order to feel safe here.

Or that I’m not fitting into their standards and thus disappointing them.

Furthermore, they want to educate me and hold their hurt.

In their eyes I am the one “hurting” them, not they are activating a prior wound that gets rubbed here.

There is a presumption and expectation that they should not be “hurt” and therefore I clearly need to change.

If I do not change according to how they see fit, I am harmful and probably have a personality disorder 🤣

This question also assumes that I am “unaware” or somehow could not possibly be crystal clear on everything that is written or shared.

It assumes a superiority that they must “know better”.

It assumes their values are right and my “hurtful” behavior is wrong.

If I don’t correct this or admit this I am clearly wrong and everything I share is wrong.

How do I know this?

Because I have seen this pattern a million times.

It’s everywhere.

It’s a pervasive parasitic collective pattern.

And it feeds on the Ego’d desire to be good and liked so people fall for this crap.

This is not to be confused with real vulnerability in relationship.

This is not to be confused with negotiating being human and human stuff with friends.

This is not to be confused with cleaning up things that are truly unclean energetically.

And if you ever see me clean things up it’s because it’s True in my relationship with the energy. Not to appease anyone.

Questions about teachings framed with vulnerability and reception will always be answered.

Challenges, demands, outrage? I’m totally unavailable.

Personal projections? Unavailable.

How the work impacts you, dreams, or questions about how to get started? Totally available.

I’m actually extremely accessible.

EXTREMELY.

But chances are… we are not friends.

Unless you personally know my woman and I have allowed you into the deep recesses of my heart we are not friends

If you have not met my inner child we are not friends.

If I don’t pick up the phone and call you, we are not friends.

If interactions are me holding you we are not friends.

If you feel intimately connected to me but I don’t know you, we are not friends.

Being friends is a deeply human thing.

It’s personal.

It’s nuanced and complex.

Your relationship with me here in this space is as a teacher and a channel or just a random person you follow online.

In this relationship I am a representative for the energy.

It is not personal.

It is transpersonal, beyond the individual.

And it is my job in service to the energy to share and guide.

And I do share my humanity.

As a method of teaching.

It’s service.

Why write this?

Because anything here that you take “personally” is yours.

There is a desire to recruit others into our triggers and hurts and create relationships where they don’t exist because that’s how patterns play out.

In our personal lives we expect people to play a role.

While you may project a role in your mind onto me, I will not be participating in this illusion.

I do not answer to your ideas and expectations of “accountability” and your personal needs for me to “behave” according to your Egoic safety based belief structures.

But this is not a personal space and you do not have a “personal” relationship with me.

Why does this matter?

Someone said to me in anonymous Q&A:

“What’s the best way to show you something is hurtful that you are doing without you being defensive?”

(Following a question asking if I have ever been diagnosed with a personality disorder 🤣)

This is a question that points to a few things.

And I’m going to illustrate it so you can see this for your own spaces as well.

First, it assumes a relationship based on prior agreed upon values. It assumes I have violated an agreement we have. It assumes that we have shared vulnerability and intimacy and I have violated something.

It assumes… FRIENDSHIP.

What is actually happening is this person, a stranger on the internet, who feels intimately connected here on some level, feels that I am not living up to their expectations of how they need me to behave in order to feel safe here.

Or that I’m not fitting into their standards and thus disappointing them.

Furthermore, they want to educate me and hold their hurt.

In their eyes I am the one “hurting” them, not they are activating a prior wound that gets rubbed here.

There is a presumption and expectation that they should not be “hurt” and therefore I clearly need to change.

If I do not change according to how they see fit, I am harmful and probably have a personality disorder 🤣

This question also assumes that I am “unaware” or somehow could not possibly be crystal clear on everything that is written or shared.

It assumes a superiority that they must “know better”.

It assumes their values are right and my “hurtful” behavior is wrong.

If I don’t correct this or admit this I am clearly wrong and everything I share is wrong.

How do I know this?

Because I have seen this pattern a million times.

It’s everywhere.

It’s a pervasive parasitic collective pattern.

And it feeds on the Ego’d desire to be good and liked so people fall for this crap.

This is not to be confused with real vulnerability in relationship.

This is not to be confused with negotiating being human and human stuff with friends.

This is not to be confused with cleaning up things that are truly unclean energetically.

And if you ever see me clean things up it’s because it’s True in my relationship with the energy. Not to appease anyone.

Questions about teachings framed with vulnerability and reception will always be answered.

Challenges, demands, outrage? I’m totally unavailable.

Personal projections? Unavailable.

How the work impacts you, dreams, or questions about how to get started? Totally available.

I’m actually extremely accessible.

EXTREMELY.

But chances are… we are not friends.