I spoke a bit about the Feminine Aesthetic v Embodiment the other day and the gorgeousness of life force animating a body of any shape.

And I think I should discuss the Body Positivity Movement.

Like all activism, it meant well, seeking to shine a light on the fact that modern beauty standards, the fashion industry and fitness industry are marketing to the vast majority of women with an image of “perfection” that simply is not true for the majority of people.

The wave of acknowledgment that not everyone is a size zero was liberating for the majority of women. Growing up, when having a big ass was not the fashion, it was always harder to buy pants and find things that fit my curves. I’m so grateful for the variety of clothes that actually fit me.

But like all activism, “body positivity” it turned into victim identity based significance. To the point where doctors can’t even tell someone they are morbidly obese because it might hurt their feelings.

As a bigger curvier woman I could absolutely USE this new wave to gain significance. I could use hashtags like #fatgirl and #curvy and #bigass to get attention because that’s what is popular. All of a sudden showing your cellulite is cool. And then naturally thin women are then no longer attractive? That’s not what this is supposed to mean.

The same thing has happened with diversity. If you are a blonde blue eyed girl no one is interested. And not only that, there is actually a demonization of the thin white girl. The culture has elevated the most marginalized identities in a very strange and artificial way that is like identity olympics. You need to find a way to be “marginalized”or you just aren’t cool. You don’t have a special significance. And this is simply gross. No one is elevated when you need to do so by making other people less than. It’s all the same thing painted a different way.

What I see in body positivity are a lot of fat women who are not embodied. Fat does not equal embodied. I see them doing things and wearing things to get any ounce of attention and now they have a whole tribe to say “Yeah girl! You look AMAZING!” Who probably don’t actually mean it and those women don’t actually feel it.

And instead of them looking at the truth of their bodies and how they feel about themselves we are celebrating an aesthetic that is just the opposite of what had previously been celebrated.

We still aren’t celebrating the truth.

I will tell you that I love my body. And I fully accept where I am in my life in my body. I also have constant eyes on what is not in alignment.

How I am interacting with food. When I’m not eating. When I put other things before caring for my body.

I surrendered to what is because constantly focusing on the outcome of losing weight doesn’t work. But would I say my body is in total alignment? Hell no! My body is the product of:

* growing Up on processed foods and hydrogenated oils

* Overuse of antibiotics

* Years of drugs and alcohol

* A deeply traumatized nervous system

* Having a baby and not being able to get back to my pre-baby weight

And while those issues have all been addressed, my body still shows the consequences and impact of those things. It asks for my constant attention. What I see in “body positivity” is not that. It’s a full societal collapse into the swampy feminine of “fuck it I reject the patriarchy” attitude.

That is equally distorted.

There is a nuance between acceptance of what is and recognizing it can be beautiful but that isn’t an excuse.

It’s the same thing with “yeah bad things happened to you, you have trauma, and that trauma is now your responsibility.” It’s not an excuse to behave poorly.

I spoke a bit about the Feminine Aesthetic v Embodiment the other day and the gorgeousness of life force animating a body of any shape.

And I think I should discuss the Body Positivity Movement.

Like all activism, it meant well, seeking to shine a light on the fact that modern beauty standards, the fashion industry and fitness industry are marketing to the vast majority of women with an image of “perfection” that simply is not true for the majority of people.

The wave of acknowledgment that not everyone is a size zero was liberating for the majority of women. Growing up, when having a big ass was not the fashion, it was always harder to buy pants and find things that fit my curves. I’m so grateful for the variety of clothes that actually fit me.

But like all activism, “body positivity” it turned into victim identity based significance. To the point where doctors can’t even tell someone they are morbidly obese because it might hurt their feelings.

As a bigger curvier woman I could absolutely USE this new wave to gain significance. I could use hashtags like #fatgirl and #curvy and #bigass to get attention because that’s what is popular. All of a sudden showing your cellulite is cool. And then naturally thin women are then no longer attractive? That’s not what this is supposed to mean.

The same thing has happened with diversity. If you are a blonde blue eyed girl no one is interested. And not only that, there is actually a demonization of the thin white girl. The culture has elevated the most marginalized identities in a very strange and artificial way that is like identity olympics. You need to find a way to be “marginalized”or you just aren’t cool. You don’t have a special significance. And this is simply gross. No one is elevated when you need to do so by making other people less than. It’s all the same thing painted a different way.

What I see in body positivity are a lot of fat women who are not embodied. Fat does not equal embodied. I see them doing things and wearing things to get any ounce of attention and now they have a whole tribe to say “Yeah girl! You look AMAZING!” Who probably don’t actually mean it and those women don’t actually feel it.

And instead of them looking at the truth of their bodies and how they feel about themselves we are celebrating an aesthetic that is just the opposite of what had previously been celebrated.

We still aren’t celebrating the truth.

I will tell you that I love my body. And I fully accept where I am in my life in my body. I also have constant eyes on what is not in alignment.

How I am interacting with food. When I’m not eating. When I put other things before caring for my body.

I surrendered to what is because constantly focusing on the outcome of losing weight doesn’t work. But would I say my body is in total alignment? Hell no! My body is the product of:

* growing Up on processed foods and hydrogenated oils

* Overuse of antibiotics

* Years of drugs and alcohol

* A deeply traumatized nervous system

* Having a baby and not being able to get back to my pre-baby weight

And while those issues have all been addressed, my body still shows the consequences and impact of those things. It asks for my constant attention. What I see in “body positivity” is not that. It’s a full societal collapse into the swampy feminine of “fuck it I reject the patriarchy” attitude.

That is equally distorted.

There is a nuance between acceptance of what is and recognizing it can be beautiful but that isn’t an excuse.

It’s the same thing with “yeah bad things happened to you, you have trauma, and that trauma is now your responsibility.” It’s not an excuse to behave poorly.