A friend wrote a post about his opinions about “overweight” people, what it’s really about and how it’s their own lack of discipline or their fault and that they are essentially untrustworthy.

I would have agreed with the basic premise. I can absolutely point to every thing that has my body “overweight”.

Layer by layer of burdens that I’ve carried from emotional, to spiritual to material.

Though I’m still not sure where we get the standard for the “correct” weight, I can accept I’m carrying more weight than I would like.

Perhaps in more than one way.

This is what I’ve concluded over the years.

1. Punishing discipline does not help me lose weight

2. Restriction does not help me lose weight, but I also have been told I don’t eat enough to lose weight

3. Fad diets or trends do not help me lose weight that stays off

I’ve also learned that my body is brilliant.

Like the intelligence of my body far surpasses anything I could possibly attempt to assert upon it with my minimal knowledge, will and control .

Mostly my body is a beautiful biological intelligence here to protect herself while I am here doing my thing as a soul, visiting.

Bodies come with a lot of baggage.

You are basically moving into a house that was lived in for thousands of years by your predecessors as well as all it endured since you arrived in it.

Not to mention spiritual warfare, alchemy for the collective and many other jobs which land us a lot of density and protection in the physical.

But untrustworthy? This one really got me because it’s a very particular projection

Why would we need to trust anyone (or not) because of their body type? It’s a bizarre orientation.

But when I think about it.

The people who have hurt me?

The people who have been obsessed with how they look. Their outward looking organization.

The people concerned with physical appearance or appearances.

One could call it discipline… or one could call it deeply rigid control that hides a lack of connection or faith in G-d.

But honestly who cares? Does it matter? No.

That’s their journey.

Now it’s one thing to use any substance to numb out, which every human I know does. But this brings me back to this outdated assumption that people who are overweight are just stuffing their face all day. Really?

Most overweight people have a detoxification issues, most likely aren’t methylating properly, have some kind of issue causing inflammation and it’s ridiculous to think this is just solved with food. It’s not. And here’s the thing. It is a teacher. A beautiful teacher.

One that invites us to soften our control and forcefulness and be slower and easier.

That’s actually the thing most bodies need.

What I trust?

A person’s deep curiosity into their own practice.

A real grace for the imperfections of the human experience and all that comes with.

A humility that we are not actually here to perfect the body and that in truth we have very little control over when we die (try as we might).

I trust people who have a deeply attuned relationship with Truth and acceptance of what is.

My experience is also that everyone is given a game to play.

Some of us have more complex games with different layers of lessons.

Advanced souls like deep rich puzzles chock full of difficult initiations intended to expand one’s soul.

It is not for us to judge what journey someone’s soul has chosen and it’s not for us to insert our ideas of what we think is the ideal thing for them.

It’s also none of our business to determine the timing or speed of someone’s journey.

Ultimately the only person that matters that you trust?

YOURSELF.

There is not one person out there you should need to trust more than you trust yourself that you need to decide to trust them based on their appearance in anyway.

Trust is an internal game.

A friend wrote a post about his opinions about “overweight” people, what it’s really about and how it’s their own lack of discipline or their fault and that they are essentially untrustworthy.

I would have agreed with the basic premise. I can absolutely point to every thing that has my body “overweight”.

Layer by layer of burdens that I’ve carried from emotional, to spiritual to material.

Though I’m still not sure where we get the standard for the “correct” weight, I can accept I’m carrying more weight than I would like.

Perhaps in more than one way.

This is what I’ve concluded over the years.

1. Punishing discipline does not help me lose weight

2. Restriction does not help me lose weight, but I also have been told I don’t eat enough to lose weight

3. Fad diets or trends do not help me lose weight that stays off

I’ve also learned that my body is brilliant.

Like the intelligence of my body far surpasses anything I could possibly attempt to assert upon it with my minimal knowledge, will and control .

Mostly my body is a beautiful biological intelligence here to protect herself while I am here doing my thing as a soul, visiting.

Bodies come with a lot of baggage.

You are basically moving into a house that was lived in for thousands of years by your predecessors as well as all it endured since you arrived in it.

Not to mention spiritual warfare, alchemy for the collective and many other jobs which land us a lot of density and protection in the physical.

But untrustworthy? This one really got me because it’s a very particular projection

Why would we need to trust anyone (or not) because of their body type? It’s a bizarre orientation.

But when I think about it.

The people who have hurt me?

The people who have been obsessed with how they look. Their outward looking organization.

The people concerned with physical appearance or appearances.

One could call it discipline… or one could call it deeply rigid control that hides a lack of connection or faith in G-d.

But honestly who cares? Does it matter? No.

That’s their journey.

Now it’s one thing to use any substance to numb out, which every human I know does. But this brings me back to this outdated assumption that people who are overweight are just stuffing their face all day. Really?

Most overweight people have a detoxification issues, most likely aren’t methylating properly, have some kind of issue causing inflammation and it’s ridiculous to think this is just solved with food. It’s not. And here’s the thing. It is a teacher. A beautiful teacher.

One that invites us to soften our control and forcefulness and be slower and easier.

That’s actually the thing most bodies need.

What I trust?

A person’s deep curiosity into their own practice.

A real grace for the imperfections of the human experience and all that comes with.

A humility that we are not actually here to perfect the body and that in truth we have very little control over when we die (try as we might).

I trust people who have a deeply attuned relationship with Truth and acceptance of what is.

My experience is also that everyone is given a game to play.

Some of us have more complex games with different layers of lessons.

Advanced souls like deep rich puzzles chock full of difficult initiations intended to expand one’s soul.

It is not for us to judge what journey someone’s soul has chosen and it’s not for us to insert our ideas of what we think is the ideal thing for them.

It’s also none of our business to determine the timing or speed of someone’s journey.

Ultimately the only person that matters that you trust?

YOURSELF.

There is not one person out there you should need to trust more than you trust yourself that you need to decide to trust them based on their appearance in anyway.

Trust is an internal game.